Hello Sass,
Here are answers to some of your questions:
WiringPi is deprecated, which means that the library is not being updated. I do not know when the library would stop working.
Yes, both libraries are installed in the Raspberry Pi OS, and only pigpio is being updated.
Here is the link where it is mentioned that the WiringPiISR is not safe with Xojo (contribution with @MarkusR ): gpio event at level change - #2 by Eugene_Dakin
@Julia_Truchsess is a professional and this is likely your best option, if you are to use Xojo with the Raspberry Pi.